Do you ever think about the simple things in life? The things we have, do or use everyday that are "insignificant" to most but make your life happy and sometimes even easier. I've been thinking about those things lately and I've come to realize one person's insignificant thing really can be someone else's salvation, stress reliever or just plain old guilty pleasure and NO ONE should make you, me or anyone else feel bad because we like something that they consider "stupid", "childish", or "a waste of time". Who are they to judge me or what I have, do or like? They are (as I like to call them) The Nay Sayers. Thankfully I have now dropped most all of them out of my life; these last few months. During what I can only call My Journey and let me tell you it is the BEST thing I have done for MYSELF so far.
That is the key right there "MYSELF". Why is it that any time we try to do something for ourselves we are immediately labeled, "selfish", "greedy", "inconsiderate" or my favorite "lazy". I do not understand when or where it became a bad thing to take time for yourself & to actually be okay with whatever you want to do, see or have. This is especially true for women and most of all for Mothers.
I have so many female friends who are so uptight that if you put a piece of coal up their asses an hour later a diamond would fall out (ah if that were only true I'd be rich haha). The weird part about it most of them were NEVER like this when I first met them and they definitely were not like this when they were younger. So when, how, why did we all go from fun, free, happy, loving young women to uptight, stressed out, insomniac, crazed women? I hate to say it but I too was one of them. Partly because I was so sick but mostly because I was afraid to speak up, to say what was on my mind. Which was SO NEVER like me when I was younger. I was always the first one to speak up for myself for someone else but then somewhere along the way it changed, no I CHANGED (more on that later I know you hate me for saying that don't you but hey how long do you want these posts to be ha-ha)
And now I am so happy that I have not only found myself again BUT I've also figured out that if I want to do absolutely fucking NOTHING on a beautiful Sunday afternoon. Then I can do absolutely FUCKING nothing and not have to justify, apologize or explain why I am not outside or doing something "significant" on such a gorgeous day. Nope I don't wanna and you can't make me PPRRRRBBBRT
No I enjoy the simple things. I take time for myself and if someone needs something from me and it can wait then it waits. I will never put these simple little things before something that was truly important or if someone needed my help but if there is nothing on fire, no one is in the ER and nobody "needs" me I am taking time to watch whatever TV Show I want (yes that includs shows on Bravo TV the #1 Trash TV Channel but I love it). If I want to peruse TMZ or RadarOnline I will. If I want to hop onto Twitter or text a few friends see ya because you won't see/hear from me for a few hours (hey I'm not exactly shy); and no one is going to ever call me selfish, greedy, inconsiderate or lazy again and if they do well they can SUCK IT (yes it's 1 of my favorite phrases get used to it b/c it will be repeated for dramatic pause hahaha and if YOU don't like it well you know what you can do too LOL)
I am NOT any of those foul abusive deaming words. I am actually quite the opposite in fact as I write more and you read more you will be able to judge for yourself & I am not worried as to what conclusion you will have. The Nay Sayers are no longer a part of my life, which btw included: friends, co-workers, employers and even family. It was not an easy decision but I had to do it and WOW what an amazing wonderful life I am having. I've met so many awe inspiring, amazing people and every day I learn something new, my eyes are opened even more and I realize that everything that has happened to me these last well 15 years was all for this moment for me to realize It's okay to be me and it's okay to enjoy the "Simple Things in Life"
Now go enjoy your SIGNIFICANT thing because you deserve it and I am giving you permission.
Tell me your guilty pleasures and the simple things that make you happy in the comments below.
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